Throughout my life, stories have been told whenever
there was a gathering of people, no matter the occasion. Daddy and my cousins
are the best story tellers. Here is a family story that was a popular one.
My sister Jennifer and cousin Jeff were young. Daddy and my Uncle had a small mule at the barn lot at Grandma’s farm. They put a saddle on it, and Jennifer and Jeff rode the mule with Daddy or my Uncle leading it around the lot. The two young kids enjoyed the mule ride.
At last, time had come to leave. My Uncle and Daddy took the saddle off the mule. My Uncle turned to Daddy, “Get on it and ride it around the lot.” Daddy wasn’t sure, but he did climb on the mule’s bare back. Before he knew what was happening, my Uncle slapped the mule on the rump; the mule ran off. Daddy was barely hanging on, the mule turned left, and he tried to turn it right. Daddy fell off to the ground, landing on his arm.
The fall knocked the breath out of him. As he laid on
the ground, trying to catch his breath, little Jeff came running over, shook
his head, and said, “Uncle Kent, you’re suppose to say, Whoa!” Daddy
wanted to laugh, but he had no breath. He wished he would have said, “Whoa,”
because now he had a broken wrist.
That line, “Uncle Kent, you’re suppose to say, Whoa!” has been repeated so many times over the years. I smile every time I hear or think about it, as it reminds me of the laughs and good times our family shared.
Gardening at Grandma Samples’ Place: Playing in the
From a young age, I enjoyed nature and playing
outside. Mama and Daddy planted gardens every year. We had a big one at my
Grandma Samples’ place. In the spring, Daddy drove the tractor from the farm to
plow up the ground. As I rode with him on the tractor, the luscious smell of
overturning soil comforted me: I loved playing in the dirt. I dug holes, looked
for worms, made mounds of dirt, even baked mud pies. The garden at Grandma’s
provided me that dirt playground.
Gardening was hard work. We helped Mama and Daddy
plant seeds, hoe weeds, and pick ripe vegetables. The first things planted and
harvested were green onions and potatoes. I remember one summer day, we dug up
potatoes and brought them back to our house. I wanted to eat one right away.
Mama told me she needed to wash them and cook them for supper. I picked up a
dirt covered potato and ran into our house to our bathroom sink. I scrubbed
that potato with Dial bar soap, scrubbing and scrubbing to clean it. Mama came in
there asking, “What are you doing?” I replied to her that I was just washing
this potato so I can eat it. Mama shook her head, “We don’t need to wash them
in the bathroom sink with bath soap!” I wanted to be sure that potato was
Visiting with my Grandma Samples was the reason I
enjoyed the garden. She was quiet mannered, loving, and had a sharp wit. She
was born in 1903, a fascination for me, being born at the beginning of the
century. Often, we brought in peas or green beans, sitting with Grandma to
shell or string them. Grandma was always so much faster at that than me.
One story she told about her Grandfather Thompson both
intrigued and horrified me. Grandfather Thompson served as a Confederate
soldier during the Civil War. He told his grandchildren, “I was so cold, so
hungry, I was afraid to put my fingers near my mouth, afraid that I’d start
eating my own fingers.” There is no doubt, Confederate soldiers suffered
Grandma Samples lived a simple, long life. I admire
her immensely, living through the remarkable historical events of the 20th
Century. I remember walking out to the garden with Grandma, seeing her smile.
She enjoyed playing in the dirt, too, I can imagine.
Thirty years ago, I sat on the football field at
Cherokee High School’s Class of 1989’s graduation. That night culminated our
high school experience. My best of friends surrounded me. How did we get here?
For me, my high school years laid the foundation for my future. Life-long friendships formed. Music experiences solidified my joy of music. Other experiences offered a chance to explore my prospective career as an educator.
My memories of our last weeks of high school bring joy
to my heart; that’s what I felt at the time, joy, the best time of my life. We
had our End of the Year Chorus Banquet. Our chorus teacher made us all feel
special and loved. Our theme for the banquet was, “Who is your Hero?” She invited
us to come dressed as our heroes. Characters that arrived at the banquet
included the Ultimate Warrior (a wrestler), Indiana Jones, and even Freddy
Kruger. I think I dressed as a teacher. Our chorus teacher entered wearing a
red graduation cap and gown. We, the graduation seniors, were her heroes. What
a statement! Her joy and love for us inspired us to be our best.
As a group, we decided to sing, “Wing Beneath My
Wings,” during graduation, to dedicate the song to our parents and chorus
teacher. We gathered at a friend’s house to practice. I think we all wanted our
graduation to be special and memorable.
As a class, we practiced the graduation ceremony
during the hot summer-like day on the football field. Over 300 teenagers
gathered. I remember taking pictures with my camera, sitting beside my homeroom
friends at the front. It was so hot, but we had a blast. This excited me, we
The night of the graduation arrived. At home, my
parents captured the moment with pictures of me in my white cap and gown.
Anticipation filled me, knowing this was the last night of my high school
years. The end of one chapter, the beginning of a new one.
Sometime during the ceremony, our chorus gathered to
perform, “Wings Beneath My Wings.” Yes, tears were flowing. My heart overflowed
with emotions: the last time singing as a group, the pride of our parents, the
gratefulness for my parents, teachers, and friends, the memory of a dear friend
present only in her Spirit, and the knowledge this night was the launching of
our future as young adults.
After receiving our diplomas, we celebrated!
Our gang, our parents, and many others gathered at
John’s house that night: The biggest graduation party ever! I had never seen so
many people at that house before, as it was a usual hang out spot. The party
proved to be the perfect ending. The people I cared for deeply, all in one
place, once again, to laugh, talk, and have a grand time.
To the Class of 1989: Thirty years ago, we stood at
the edge of a future, not knowing the life’s path we would traverse. I am
thankful for my years at Cherokee High School, for the foundation created for
Now, I feel the joy of my 17-year-old self, surrounded by my family and dear friends. As my youngest son graduates from Creekview High School, I wish the Class of 2019 the joy and excitement, of standing on the edge of your future.
All of us during our childhood could not wait for the last day
of school, for our summer vacation to begin. Summers when I was young, meant I
would spend days with my Grandma, my sister, and my cousins, playing all over
cow pastures, Grandma’s yard, and my cousins’ house. Grandma and my cousins
lived on 25 plus acres of cow pastures and a small lake in the middle. Their
houses sat at the front of the property, a short distance apart. When I went to
Grandma’s house early on a summer day, I would yell for Jason, wave to him to
see if we could play. He’d ride his bike or go-cart and join me. The hours
passed as we climbed trees or roamed through the pastures on make believe
hunting adventures. We mashed poke salad berries to make ink, dipped a stick in
it, and wrote on rocks or pieces of wood. We threw crab apples to see who could
throw it the farthest or feed them to the cows. We even played on top of the LP
gas tank, a great submarine, ship, or horse!
When my sister and I traversed to our cousins’ house, summertime
meant hours of our favorite game: War. Jeff and Jason had a plethora of play
guns: pistols, rifles, dart guns, cap guns. We split into teams, usually Jeff
and Jennifer vs. Jason and me. It was a hide and seek, stealth mission game.
One pair hid outside, while the other pair stayed inside the basement, no
peeking! The goal was a surprise attack. If you were seeking, you wanted to
find the others and shoot first. If you were hiding, you wanted to jump out and
shoot before you were spotted and run back to home base.
One summer day, Jason and I climbed up our favorite magnolia
tree to hide. Minutes passed. We sat on the branches, silent, waiting with our
guns ready. Jeff comes walking up to the tree, looking around on the ground. I am
ready to jump down, but Jason motions to me to wait. Jeff walked away. We
stayed in the tree longer. Finally, Jeff came back around. That time, Jason and
I leaped off our perch, landing on both sides of him. “Pow-Pow, we got you!”
Victory for us! Jeff was totally shocked! We laughed as we recalled how Jeff
had walked right under us, not suspecting anything.
Summer evenings, as the sun set, we ran around Grandma’s yard
catching lightning bugs, placing them in a mason jar. By that time, our parents
finished up working on the farm. Everyone gathered in Grandma’s driveway,
sitting on tailgates of a truck or jeep or in chairs in the yard. I looked
around feeling the warm coolness of a summer evening, feeling the joy of my
family being together, a magical way to end a summer day at Grandma’s farm.
Of all the changes in my life, music has been a
constant, a calming balm, a passion within me. Music evokes emotions and
memories vividly within me. Hearing a song can take me to a place I have not
thought about for years. I often express myself with music by humming, singing,
or reciting lyrics. Music became a part of me when I was very young.
My earliest memory of music is being in church. I
remember no matter what church service or where, I opened the Red Hymnal Book,
singing, even before I could read all the words or music. And I probably knew page
57 was “Amazing Grace”, p. 333, “I’ll Fly Away”, and p. 120 “Victory in Jesus”
at that early age, too. (You still remember those page numbers in the Red
Hymnal!) My family and I attended church singings on weekend nights to hear
local groups. Mama had many albums of them that we played frequently on our
stereo. I listened to the records wishing I was the one on the record singing.
My sister and I did start singing together in church.
Mama says she gave us a dollar the first time we sang in a church service;
although since I was so young, I cannot recall that moment. I know Mama played
the piano, and we sang a song during the service. Known as “Kent’s girls”, we
sang, and then Daddy preached a sermon in many churches for years.
Around the time I was six years old, Mama and Daddy
bought an old upright piano. They placed it in our living room, which had doors
separating it form the rest of the house. Jennifer started taking piano lessons
first, then when I was nine years old, I began my lessons. I was so excited! I
practiced every chance I got. My lessons continued for about two years.
Learning a little more on my own, I began to play basic church songs. However,
going in to the living room and playing the piano became my sanctuary. I stayed
for one to two hours there, never becoming a grand pianist, but I created a
sound along with my voice: music.
Throughout my teenage years, much of my life centered
on music. One of my greatest joys in high school was chorus. The every day
thrill in my heart, walking into a class and singing, was phenomenal to me. I
had never experienced being surrounded by so many people who loved music, too. And here, I found some of my best friends for
life, including my Love, my awesome husband.
My early life experiences so deeply intertwined with
music molded me. Music is a constant, a calming balm, and a passion.
Music and performing have been a part of my entire life. When I was young, everywhere was a stage. My sister and I had a small play piano in our play room. Jennifer and I pretended to have church services and lead songs. Then we performed shows. In our bedroom, we played Shawn Cassidy, Leif Garrett, Andy Gibbs, and ABBA on our small record player. Even to silly songs like, “One-Eyed, One-Horned, Flying Purple People Eater” and “Disco Duck,” we sang and danced to an audience in our dresser mirror.
Outside, our small front porch was the stage. We
practiced cheerleading. Jennifer loved to cheer. She could do cartwheels; when I tried, I
landed on my head and flat on my back. Jen did splits and jumps, and I just
yelled loudly. No matter what, we performed outside cheering our Macedonia
Wildcats to “Gimme a V, dot the I, curve the C, T-O-R-Y!”
The best stage award goes to Grandma’s outside marble
table. My Grandpa had bought the marble and built an outside picnic table about
eight feet long and four feet high. Yes, we had picnics and lots of watermelons
on the table. However, we utilized it mostly as the grandest stage ever!
We climbed up and performed the most magnificent
shows: Disco-Saturday Night Fever, HeeHaw, Greatest Gospel Hymns, Alabama. We
enjoyed all kinds of music. We made up entire shows with introductions,
singing, and dancing. Sometimes, our cousins joined us. I loved singing, “Thank
God, I’m a Country Boy,” by John Denver with them. That song personified our
times there on Grandma’s farm. In my mind, “We are Family,” by Sister Sledge,
became our anthem, often ending our shows. There on that marble table, I knew I
wanted to be a rock star, or Dolly Parton, when I grew up!
Daddy told his preacher calling when I was around four
years old. He told our home church the Lord had called him to be a preacher. I
had no idea how this would change our lives or really what it all meant. I do
not remember Daddy’s first time preaching. My first memories of his ministry
began when a small church called Daddy to be their pastor; Daddy accepted.
Daddy would be ordained as a full Baptist Minister.
The week before the ordination, Jennifer and I were
riding to town with my Grandma. I was sitting in the front seat beside the
door. Grandma asked me, “Well, what do you think of your daddy being a Pastor?”
As I looked out at some cows, all I could think of were cow pastures. I just could not put together Daddy and a cow pasture. I said something to Grandma like I thought a pasture was for the cows. Grandma laughed and said, “No, a church Pastor, you know, the Preacher of a church. Like our Preacher Harold.” I was relieved that Daddy would be going to a church as a preacher, not to a cow pasture. However, maybe the cows needed preached to?
“Jubilee, Jubilee, You’re invited to that happy
I wake up hearing this song and smelling sausage
cooking. It’s Sunday morning! The night before Mama had washed my long hair, so
I felt all clean and ready for day the ahead. I nudge Jennifer sleeping beside
me as I got out of bed, saying, “It’s Sunday morning!” She just moans, “I
know,” It took a while for Jennifer to wake in the mornings. I go in the
kitchen to see Mama cooking our breakfast: sausage, biscuits and gravy, and
scrambled eggs. Mama and Daddy had a Sunday morning routine. While Mama cooked
our breakfast, Daddy showered and dressed (except his dress shirt and tie).
Then after breakfast, Daddy cleaned up the kitchen and washed the dishes, while
Mama dressed and helped us get ready. This was one of the many ways my parents
worked as partners in their marriage.
Mama continues cooking, I watch the Gospel Singing
Jubilee on our television, the theme song that woke me every Sunday morning. Gospel
groups such as the Florida Boys, The Goodmans, the Inspirations, and the Nelons
perform as I sing along. At last, Mama yells, “Breakfast is ready!”
We sit down at the table. As we begin eating, I can’t
wait to ask Daddy, “Where are we going to church?” When Daddy was not a pastor
of a church, he would visit churches throughout Cherokee and Forsyth counties,
sometimes further away into Pickens, Dawson, Hall; well, across North Georgia.
Daddy prayed, studied, and mediated on Scripture in his King James Version of
the Holy Bible throughout the week. The Lord would send him to a church to
visit on Sunday morning. Most often, Daddy would preach the sermon there. I
often did not know where we going to church until breakfast Sunday morning.
That was exciting to me; awaiting the adventure of our Sunday.
When Daddy tells us where we were going, the next
question was: What time are we leaving? We could be going to a church 15
minutes from our house or an hour and 15 minutes away. If it was a church where
I knew I would see my friends, I was doubly excited. If it was a church I had
never been to before, I would be nervous. Even though I viewed Sundays as an
adventure, walking into a church as a visitor caused some anxiety.
Finally, we finish breakfast. Jennifer and I dress in
our Sunday dresses, knee high white socks, and black patent shoes. Mama brushes
my hair. She makes sure we are all ready to go. Meanwhile, Daddy cleans the kitchen,
washing dishes and pans. Then he’s putting on his dress shirt and tie. I watch
him tie his necktie and wondering, how does he do that? Daddy puts on his suit
coat. Mama puts on her red lipstick. Daddy picks up his blue leather cover
Bible. We all climb into our car. Jennifer and I settle into the back seat. We
are off to church.
Our Sunday morning is coming to an end. Soon it will
be church time. A time shared with other people. Sunday mornings were my family
time. From the moment I heard, “Jubilee, Jubilee,” until the I saw a church
parking lot, I was happily embraced in my family, anticipating our Sunday